Here we are. 2nd year already.
This year will be full of assignments and exams, but we will do 3 placement-blocks of 6 weeks each, just one core placement of 4 weeks (antenatal, postnatal or intranatal) and the others just specialist placement (theater, public health nurse, community midwife, gynecologic ward, NICU)
For me the only core placement of this year was postnatal and I loved it as usual.
My little blue book has grown fast for postnatal checks on mums and babies, but I also felt much more confident and independent, which made my 4 weeks placement more intense and tiring compared to the first.
Helping a fist time father to debrief his birthing experience. This was the most inspiring encounter of the placement.
I simply asked him how was he feeling, how was HIS birthing experience. He was so positively surprised and grateful! He started winding out all his thoughts and worries, he used hard words to describe how the whole pregnancy care made him feel during the whole pregnancy 'A SPERM DONOR'.
His wife was breastfeeding and even if breastfeeding is the best for mothers and babies and he was supporting his wife 100% he admitted to feel excluded and to be considering it as a phase to wait to be over to be able to bond better with his child.
I explained him how to be included and sharing the baby also at this stage, such as skin-to-skin while the mother was performing some breastmassage, changing the baby, helping his wife with words of encouragement (something that really makes a difference!!!), preparing nice meals (healthy and nice warm meals will help the milk supply!), tummy time with the baby, black and white early weeks books etcetcetc!
Please, if the fathers are in the room, write down their names on the chart, talk to them, childbirth is their experience too!
Debrief their birth experience and help them sharing this early phases! The gift you are making them is priceless.
Gloria Coccoli, midwifery student in Dublin, but born in love with life in the land of sun, Sicily, in 1995
Mother of a baby with wings