Sooner or later, you will unfortunately notice a common behavior ruling childbirth choices, mainly in hospital setting.
The medical model of care infuses the belief that doctors, or sometimes midwives, with their medical instruments, knowledge and medications, can be enough valid to choose for their patients and women without informing them enough about the possible choices of care. Sometimes it's just a matter of time, incredible workload which puts pressure on the medical team, making them operate in a limitative time framework. For people less fortunate, such as my Sicilian fellows, the medical staff just comes out with a brief "Just be a patient." at any query or doubt about their doctors decisions.
Most of us already grow up with a sort of subserviency in terms of their own medical choices. Better don't know, don't ask, they all know what's best for me.
These behaviors are fueling a hidden fuse of fear. Uncertainty and lack of trust are widely complained in the maternity journey in a hospital setting.
It's important to be committed in your care, to stand for your rights and be an active help for your own health.
Reading the book "Mindful birthing" by Nancy Bardacke brought up an interesting system of questions to ask your caregiver, midwives and doctors to avail an optimal commitment to your informed choices:
B.R.A.N.N= There are always alternatives
-What are the BENEFITS?
-What are the RISKS?
-What are the ALTERNATIVES?
-What about doing NOTHING?
-Does it need to be done NOW?
This can be applied for your whole life, for your birth choices, for your baby, for yourself.
There's no better advocate for your rights than yourself!
Gloria Coccoli, midwifery student in Dublin, but born in love with life in the land of sun, Sicily, in 1995
Mother of a baby with wings